Comments on Red Sox Mom: I had a miscarriage

I am so sorry for you. I can not imagine what this...

2009-12-11T21:57:32.146-07:00

I am so sorry for you. I can not imagine what this would be like. The pain you are having is natural and you should not feel guilty at all about it.

I've been having a pity party over my surgery and that's me being a big baby.

The love of a child begins when the mother bonds, the love to me is the same as when they are born and in your arms

I just found your blog today. I too am part of the...

2009-12-10T14:24:23.627-07:00

I just found your blog today. I too am part of the angel baby club. I'm SO very sorry for what you have gone through. I know the pain all to well, and started experiencing it during my 23rd week....we also have 2 girls already, and to find out that the baby stopped growing at 16 weeks while I was in my 23rd was a really big shock. We went in to find out the sex...it was heart breaking.

I wish I could tell you that it all goes away, that the feelings just stop happening, but they don't. They just happen less abundantly...I think the worst thing I was told was in the delivery room..a nurse said to me, 'at least you're not barefoot and pregnant.' I just stared...I think the best thing for me and my husband to hear was that there is hope. One of the techs that took my blood for tests told me about her recent miscarriage and she was showing...she got pregnant 2 weeks afterwards...so keep your head up, it gets better. It doesn't seem that way most days, and I even went on meds for that first month. Nothing to be ashamed of. I had to do what I did for our girls...it kept me awake when all I wanted to do was sleep, and held the tears back a little so I wasn't sobbing watching Die Hard. ;) I'm around you if feel like talking to a stranger. All day long, actually...well, in between the diaperchanging, bathing b/c my oldest found an errant pen or marker, and meals... :D
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There is nothing that I can say that you haven'...

2009-12-09T21:07:27.260-07:00

There is nothing that I can say that you haven't heard or thought, or that will ease the pain. I am so very sorry. You do, though, have EVERY right to feel how you are. Your baby is your baby, no matter how old or how young. Grieve as you need to. Don't try to change it, that will only make things harder on you. You are in my prayers.

oh i'm so very sorry! I had three miscarriages...

2009-12-08T19:21:32.359-07:00

oh i'm so very sorry! I had three miscarriages before our first. If it helps to read about other people's journey, you can read mine here

I hope that you can rest and am glad you are remembering.

You have every right to mourn this loss. I lost tw...

2009-12-08T19:21:11.855-07:00

You have every right to mourn this loss. I lost two pregnancies and the first time was horrible - I was a basket case. The second one I got through a little easier, though, knowing that without the first miscarriage I would never have had Keegan. And after my second miscarriage I immediately got pregnant again and had my Lochlan who turns 2 this month. If it helps you get through it, don't think only of the loss - think of what miracles will come. KWIM. But get through this however you need and find comfort in knowing you aren't alone. :hugs:

I just wanted to chime in about your right to have...

2009-12-08T12:57:51.817-07:00

I just wanted to chime in about your right to have a pity party! First, very normal to be sad. The grief that women feel over miscarriage is to the same degree that women feel over stillbirth, just the duration of grieving is shorter.

And, there is ALWAYS someone in the world who has had it "worse" than you do, has a worse story to tell, or has a worse life. That doesn't mean that your own story doesn't have value or doesn't matter! No matter what happens, you can always do the "it could only be worse" thing, but that invalidates your own experience and your own very real sadness.

I'm sorry about your baby. (((hugs))) My third son died at 14w5d gestation last month.

You have every right to grieve, and to feel sad. M...

2009-12-08T11:23:40.594-07:00

You have every right to grieve, and to feel sad. My thoughts and prayers are with you right now. :HUGS:

My best friend and I also became members of this &...

2009-12-08T10:41:57.469-07:00

My best friend and I also became members of this "club." Almost every woman I know that has a child has also had a miscarraige. Sorry for your loss.

i am so sorry to hear this. i am too part of this...

2009-12-08T08:11:19.099-07:00

i am so sorry to hear this. i am too part of this club that you pray that your friends will never have to join. i will be praying for you!

I am so sorry to hear of your loss! I too suffered...

2009-12-07T21:18:47.359-07:00

I am so sorry to hear of your loss! I too suffered a miscarriage on my third pregnancy. Your loss is very real and you need to morn! Here's hoping you find peace and comfort soon.

I am very sorry for your loss. Before our 6yr old...

2009-12-07T21:15:13.694-07:00

I am very sorry for your loss. Before our 6yr old was born my wife had a miscarriage. It sucked, it hurt for a long time. About 3-4months after the miscarriage we tried again and had our son. We still think about that miscarriage but realize God did it for a reason and we have a beautiful son. God had a plan for you. I know it sucks right know but just try to remember that. I know it is hard and my prayers are with you in this time of need.

I am very sorry for your loss. Before our 6yr old...

2009-12-07T21:15:13.213-07:00

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I miscarried m...

2009-12-07T21:11:01.883-07:00

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I miscarried my first pregnancy. Losing a baby or a child is one of the hardest things ever. Sure there are different feelings, depending on whether it was miscarriage, or the death of an older child, etc. But you have still lost a baby. Don't feel guilty for mourning that loss. All of those feelings, waves of emotion and numbness, fluctuating hormones, it all sounds so familiar to me. I'll be praying for you.

I just found you again. I was writing a post and t...

2009-12-07T20:53:59.038-07:00

I just found you again. I was writing a post and then came upon your post. I'm terribly sorry. I'm in your group as well. This has happened to me a few times. You have every right to feel the way you do. Take it day by day.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I also had a misca...

2009-12-07T20:13:22.160-07:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I also had a miscarriage very early on in my pregnancy before my daughter.

I know the feelings you are having and you are have every right to have them. You have had a loss no matter how early on it was.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

You have every right to grieve. Each of us show gr...

2009-12-07T19:30:48.040-07:00

You have every right to grieve. Each of us show grief in our own way. We lost our little girl to a heart defect when she was almost 2 years old and my brother and his wife lost thier first pregnancy to miscarriage. Will I ever say that one grief is harder to bear than another? Absolutely NOT. Our capacity to love knows no bounds or timelines. Grieve as long as you need. It may be short or it may be long, but let it out. Don't hold it inside. Remember that your husband is grieving too...in his own way. Hold tight to each other...

Hugs,
Angie

So sorry for your loss. I've been through one...

2009-12-07T19:28:53.108-07:00

So sorry for your loss. I've been through one with my ex-wife and one with my current wife. In each case after the miscarriage we both were very depressed. We had big plans for our child to be. While the doctors, friends, family, etc continue to try to console you and say there was a "reason" - the fact of the matter is the feelings and bonding you went through for that short period of time were real.

In one instance, although it came off as very cold, what the physician told us really hit home. He said, this happens more often than you think. Women just don't talk about it. When was the last time you had a friend say - "Here's the picture of my miscarriage."

Like I said - he was a pretty cold bastard about it - but - after we had time to think about it, he was right. Don't worry - it will pass, but won't be forgotten. Good luck to you in the future.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope things g...

2009-12-07T19:07:00.857-07:00

I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope things get better for you. It is a terrible thing when you go through something like this. I knows I have had one before. You always feel like you did something to blame. Time will take away the pain though. My thoughts are with you.

You have EVERY right to feel sad and you should de...

2009-12-07T18:58:18.214-07:00

You have EVERY right to feel sad and you should definitely not feel guilty. You did everything within your power to ensure a healthy pregnancy and for whatever reason, it was not to be. Allow yourself to grieve, you have lost something very dear to you, it is only then that you'll be able to heal emotionally which is just as important as healing physically.
I am so sorry for your loss and have you and your husband in my prayers.

I am so sorry for your loss. :( You have every rig...

2009-12-07T17:01:14.193-07:00

I am so sorry for your loss. :( You have every right to feel the way you do. You've suffered a loss and need to mourn. (((hugs)))

I am a sorry saddened to hear your news! Hugs to y...

2009-12-07T14:16:26.870-07:00

I am a sorry saddened to hear your news! Hugs to you and your hubby :)

I am so sorry for your loss. I can definitively s...

2009-12-07T11:58:51.413-07:00

I am so sorry for your loss.

I can definitively say that my miscarriage was one of the very most painful and difficult things I have ever endured.

Mourn your very real loss. We've been there, and ache for you.

You do have a right to feel so sad. You lost a pre...

2009-12-07T11:41:56.995-07:00

You do have a right to feel so sad. You lost a precious babe. It's hard not to have feelings about that. I had a miscarriage 2 years ago. I was so depressed. I was 8 weeks pregnant. It was my first pregnancy. I had so many questions and not many answers. People didn't know how to deal with my loss. People said things trying to help but some of their words were just hurtful. It's a very diffcult thing to go through. Don't doubt your right to feel pain. It hurts no matter how far along you were. If you need to talk please feel free to email me. I'm here for you!

You do have a right to feel so sad. You lost a pre...

2009-12-07T11:41:56.994-07:00

I'm so very, very sorry and I'll keep you ...

2009-12-07T11:33:00.801-07:00

I'm so very, very sorry and I'll keep you in my prayers. My hearts is bleeding with yours.